Forced Orgasms - The Ultimate Guide, Part 3

Welcome to the third and final part of our three-part series that details all the ins and outs of forced orgasms and how they push the boundaries of sex in a decadent blend of pleasure and power. We’ll cover some safety precautions, how a Motorbunny vibrator can be used, and some ideas from people with first-hand experience. 

Let’s get into it.

Part One:

1. Defining Forced Orgasms
2. A Note on Consent
3. The Appeal of Forced Orgasms.
4. The Body Effects
5. Is a Forced Orgasm Truly "Forced"?
6. Coming up in Part 2

Part Two:

1. A Quick Recap of Part 1 
2. BDSM and Forced Orgasms
3. Where do Forced Orgasms Fit into a BDSM Dynamic? 
4. Preparing for Bondage and Forced Orgasms
5. Exercising Restraint Without Bondage 
6. Bondage and Forced Orgasms
7. Vibes - What is Batman Without His Tools? 
8. Coming up in Part 3

Here's what we'll cover in Part Three:

1. Staying Safe and the Potential For Injury
2. The Motorbunny Method
3. Forced Orgasm Tips and Ideas from the Experts
4. The Forced Orgasm Takeaway 

Bonus Article: an Expert Interview from SwitchJake

Staying Safe and The Potential for Injury

Like anything, there are a few safety measures and risks that come with forced orgasms. With a bit of knowledge, you will be able to navigate these easily!

Taking care of strain and injuries, whether physical or psychological, is also just part of good aftercare practice.

Common Injuries

The unrelenting force of this kind of stimulation can cause several injuries.

• Muscle strain: Suspending the range of motion and holding the body in one position for an extended period of time can cause discomfort and muscle strain. The most commonly affected muscles are the abs, pelvic muscles, and sphincter. It is essential to check in and ensure you don't push each other too far. It is also crucial to space control play sessions out so they are not too often; this will reduce the risk of long-term strain.
• Overstimulation: The entire concept of forced orgasms is to overstimulate the receiving partner - which can lead to a general irritation of the area. Soreness and bruising can be expected. Adding in a good aftercare routine with Epsom salt baths and arnica where needed can help the submissive partner feel cared for and loved.
• Restraints: Anything used to restrain your partner, whether handcuffs, rope ties, or restraint cuffs, can cause chaffing and abrasions. Check in periodically during the session to ensure they are not causing too much discomfort or pain. After the session, treat the areas carefully; arnica gel helps with bruising.
  

Aftercare is as Important as Play

When we talk about aftercare, we don't necessarily mean the clean-up process of cleaning toys or putting away gear. Aftercare is a planned set of intentional practices to help both partners feel comfortable and reassured after each play session.

One part is taking care of any physical needs. Do you need water? Can you walk? Do you have lingering pain? Do you need a snack? Do you want to lie down in bed? Do you want me to hold you? 

Keep in mind that a submissive coming out (or still being in) subspace may not be able to answer questions thoughtfully. But you’re ready because you planned what aftercare may look like before the scene. The aftercare plan is a mutual effort, typically led by the Dom. 

It's also like a debriefing session, where everyone decompresses and expresses their feelings about the session. Talk about likes and dislikes, whether the submissive partner is okay and well, how they feel, and whether anything can be changed for the better. 

Aftercare can happen whenever and however, you need it to. It is designed to make you comfortable for as long as necessary. Some partners continue to check in days after a scene. 

This process helps ensure that future sessions go better and that a deeper connection is built between partners. After all, the whole point of control play is understanding deep boundaries, desires, and needs.

Forced orgasms can be intense and physiologically draining, which makes it even more important to dig deeper into that aspect. Practice makes progress.

The Motorbunny Method

We've mentioned before that sex machines are one of the easiest ways to achieve a forced orgasm. They just go together.

Using a Motorbunny for forced O's is simple. Our position guide dives deep into positions, so be sure to check it out for more detailed descriptions of which positions you can use.

For forced orgasms, we would recommend the Motorbunny Squat, cowgirl, or lying down positions. They are much easier in terms of being able to control the session.

Work Them Legs and Squat or Giddy Up!

Get the receiver into position - squatting (or straddling for a cowgirl position) over the Motorbunny.

Grab the Forced O belt, cuffs, and any knee padding. Firmly attach the restraints and belt to the receiver and clip them into the four steel eyelets on the Motorbunny.

Start your engines and get going with a bit of vibration. Shift gears and try out different patterns and intensities. Note what each setting offers and how the receiver responds. Keep going for as long as you like, switching between intensities and checking in periodically to ensure they are still good to go.

Part of your negotiations should cover when the session is over. Decide when it is a good idea to stop and how long you will go for. Even if the sub isn’t sure, asking them this question reminds you both that this scene will have an end. 

Spread 'em Laying Down

When using the Motorbunny in a lying down position, it's best to use restraints to subdue the sub's arms and legs, usually to the four corners of the bed. This will render them unable to move and squirm away. Use the right angle wedge to prop the sex saddle up and between the legs. This way, there's nowhere to go but to sink into the pleasure of each roaring orgasm.

Tie 'em Up

If you're more into rope than cuffs, fret not; the Motorbunny has four eyelets. One on each corner that makes it perfect for threading rope through to tie your partner to the vibrating sex machine. It will help keep them in place!

Stick to a slightly thinner rope for this, as it will be easier to thread through!

Forced orgasm belts: They will buck, they will beg, they will plead, but with a forced orgasm belt, they have nowhere to go. This is perhaps one of the most critical pieces of equipment you can have in your toy box. It is designed to fit around the waist of the person straddling an electric sex machine, with straps that firmly anchor the rider to the machine, leaving little room to wiggle off it.

RELATED ARTICLE: Still forcing O's with a wand? Find out what makes a fuck machine a worthy investment.

Forced Orgasm Tips & Ideas from the Motorbunny Community

For our final tips, we went straight to the experts! We reached out to a few experienced Tops, bottoms, experts, and enthusiasts to find out how they manage forced orgasms; here is a summary of the best advice. 

Tips for Prepping for a Session

• The Negotiation: Clearly communicate and agree on what the session will involve, including any safewords, prompts, and signals. This will ensure that everyone involved has a mutual understanding of each other's limitations and expectations.
  

• Know your submissive: Ask about any potential trauma triggers and the time since their last orgasm. This will help you anticipate any strong reactions. This understanding will also help to avoid negative emotional or physical responses should they arise in the session.
• Tip: Ask, “In the event that this unlocks some trauma or you are overwhelmed with emotions and start crying, how would you like me to handle that?"

• Prepare for ALL possible messes: The goal is to have a great session; however, that sometimes comes with mess. Accidents happen quickly and unexpectedly. Being in control includes having cleaning supplies handy in case things get messy. Towels, body wipes, disinfecting wipes, and face cloths are all useful to have within arms' reach. Starting with a waterproof blanket is a good idea. 
• Tip:  Clarify with the bottom what you’ll do if something happens and that you’re prepared. This is a great trust builder that shows you plan to take care of her.
  

• Prepare for Aftercare: Plan for immediate needs such as hugs, water, snacks, and a soft blanket. Also, check in over the next few days. Reassuring your partner that you will check in with them after the session can help them submit a little deeper into the experience. 
• Tip: Aftercare may even start before the session. Think about your sub’s specific needs and health in order to preemptively give her the space to give you full control.  
  

• Consider a Sex Maiden: If possible, have a trusted third person to assist with the session - a “Sex Maiden” at your side. They help attend to the bottom’s needs, providing water, snacks, or support, ensuring the scene runs smoothly - especially for a long session. They are also great to have around if your sub passes out or needs a little extra help getting settled when the session is over. 
• Fun Fact: This tip was from a Motorbunny user who said the most orgasms he’d ever given someone was 107, and the second-highest was 77.
  

Tips for During a Session

• Stay Attentive: Monitor your partner's responses, both verbal and nonverbal. Check in periodically with them to ensure they are comfortable and happy to continue. Remember that she’s trusting you to keep her safe. Everyone has a breaking point, and they all look different. 
  
• Lube: In short, always have more lube than you need. Ensure the lube is compatible with your toys and your partner. Remember that you can’t see what’s going on inside her, so you may want to add lube continuously.
  
• The Flow: Remember, female orgasms are different from men. The build-up and release are more important than the strength of the orgasm. Try bringing your sub to the brink of climax and allowing them to calm down before repeating the cycle. This tease of building up and relaxing can make the finale much harder and way more intense. 

As your sub gets closer to orgasm, adjust your wand or Motorbunny to either keep them on edge or when the time comes to push them over the edge to orgasm. 

Once they orgasm, keep the vibrations going on low to help her recover a little. This is a good point to dial in a new setting to begin the build-up to the next orgasm. Continue this process repeatedly until they tap out or the Dom has had enough fun.

• Continuous Stimulation: Stopping stimulation might make her realize how overstimulated she is, which could end the scene. Adjust stimulation levels to keep the vibrations manageable between orgasms.

• Never Leave a Partner Restrained Alone: Always stay present with your partner if they are restrained. Never, ever leave them alone and vulnerable. Leaving them alone can end your session on a sour note, even if nothing goes wrong. 

If you want the illusion of leaving them, then try blindfolding them. You can even lie and say you’re leaving since they won’t be able to see what’s going on. Also fun since you can silently watch how they react, you perv.

• The end is inevitable: Know that eventually, you will have to stop. Knowing your partner is crucial here. She may have different body language for good discomfort and bad discomfort. You both have the agency to find a moment when the end feels right.
• Tip: Remember that you can always do more sex things another day. And, despite your ambitions, you’re never going to do all the kinky things you ever fantasized about in one session. 

Tips for After a Session

• Thorough Aftercare: Once the session is over, offer plenty of comfort, such as snuggles or a gentle massage; always ensure they have water and snacks, too. Immediate aftercare will help your partner relax, recover from the session, and decompress. This is also a good point to check in with them - see how they feel and ask them what they need. Some might want to soak in a warm Epsom salt bath to soothe any aches and pains, while others want to curl up under a cozy blanket and lap up some comforting touch.
• Tip: Some people may not be able to drive or walk after doing a forced orgasm scene. Plan accordingly.
  

• Assist with Personal Clean Up: Help your partner to the bathroom and provide necessary toiletries and cleaning supplies. You might need to help them through this process. Ensuring they feel clean and comfortable while being supported is good practice for their post-session well-being.

• Follow-Up: Check in over the next few days to support your partner through any emotional or physical drop they may experience. Due to the intensity of these types of play, you can expect emotions to be high for a few days.
  

• Make Time and Space: Be mindful of your partner’s level of sensitivity and energy post-session. Consciously remember that she and you are feeling very differently at the end.  You may be wound up and want the party to keep going, whereas she might need tranquility.  Prepare to give her as much aftercare as she needs. 

Even cutting aftercare short a minute early could be a triggering factor for your partner in their fragile, vulnerable state. Remember that aftercare is a must for everyone involved.  

As the giver of orgasms, you can reflect on the experience and take pride in the plan you put together.  This also gives you space to think about what to do next time… 

The Forced Orgasm Takeaway

Whether you are intrigued by the idea of submitting yourself completely and handing over control to a Dom, or you want to harness the power of delivering the most intense orgasms - forced orgasms should be on your list.

Truth be told, submission is sweet, and total control is decadent. Forced orgasms bring that to life with a wave of pleasure that is sometimes felt for days. So whether you like them with a little added slap and tickle or a little more vanilla, they are designed to make you scream either way! 

Well, that’s it, folks. That wraps up our series on forced orgasms. By now, you are either planning your next play session or ready to dive in and explore the concept to its fullest. So, send this to your partner and get the negotiations going!