The Not So Vanilla Riding Sex Toys Guide: Finding Pleasure in Vanilla Sex
Everyone thinks kinky sex sounds better. However, this isn't always the case. In all honesty, despite what mainstream media and perhaps your own ideas say, vanilla sex doesn't have to be boring. There's nothing ordinary about straddling your way to toe-curling pleasure! So, whether you're a missionary master or a pillow princess, this guide will show you how to ride sex toys such as the Motorbunny like a pro without having to leave the comfort of vanilla for the darker arts of kink.
Spoiler alert: vanilla can get much spicier when you add the right riding toy.
In this article, you will learn about these topics;
- What Exactly Is Vanilla Sex?
- Vanilla vs. Kink: How Different Identities Play in the Bedroom
- A Note On Exploring Without Judgment
- Now For the Good Part: Riding Sex Toys as a Vanilla Person
- Tips for Solo Exploration and Partner Communication
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Introducing a Little Kinky Sex
- What Happens When Kinky People Meet Vanilla People?
- Vanilla is As Hot as You Make it
- The Secret Spice
By the end of this article, you will know just the right ways to spice up your sex life without leaving your comfort zone too far behind.
What Exactly Is Vanilla Sex?
Sometimes known as non-kinky sex, vanilla sex is described as simple, traditional, or straightforward sex with no frills and added spice, i.e., nothing too 'weird.' It is classic intimacy without any added flare. Make no mistake, vanilla is not dull, and just because someone is vanilla doesn't mean the sex has to be boring. Even the kinkiest of people partake in a bit of vanilla sex now and then. Vanilla sex is about comfort and familiarity.
For many, vanilla is the foundation of their sexual needs and desires. It offers you a safe space to default back to; it gives you a sense of safety and a platform to explore and enjoy pleasure without complications. When done right, vanilla sex can be thrilling, passionate, and as fulfilling as any kinky sex.
Another thing to remember is that we're all different. Rough sex to one couple is a light petting session to another. Some couples can feel that the slightest slap on the ass is kinky and spicy, while others prefer actual beatings or nothing like that at all. Anything could be considered kinky, from oral sex to doggy style; the difference is in who is experiencing it and how it is delivered.
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Vanilla vs. Kink: How Different Identities Play in the Bedroom
It is important to note that people of different sexual orientations may view kinky vs. vanilla differently. The line that separates the two can be vastly different across different sexualities and sexual identities.
Traditionally, the boundaries of kink and vanilla tend to look a lot more like traditional gender roles and cultural expectations for heterosexual couples, while homosexual couples have historically taken a broader view. As times have changed, the lines have blurred regarding sexual needs, providing more freedom for exploration.
A Note On Exploring Without Judgment
One of the most important factors of any sexual relationship, whether founded on vanilla foundations or steeped in the extremes of kink, is that there should not be a rigid divide; it is more so a spectrum of desires, needs, and experiences, whether conventional or kinky.
Vanilla and conventional sex sticks to the familiar and predictable, but it's safe and offers comfort. In contrast, kinky sex pushes the boundaries and ventures into new territories and experimentation. Kink tends to explore and push the boundaries of power dynamics and strays into the depths of BDSM and more intense role-play.
Neither is better or worse; it all boils down to personal preference. So, whether you're devoted to vanilla sex or curious about exploring BDSM and other spicy practices, this guide is designed to empower your choices without judgment. You'll learn how to incorporate playful kink into your vanilla routine or keep things traditional without missing out on any of the excitement that kink has to offer.
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Now For the Good Part: Riding Sex Toys as a Vanilla Person
Riding sex toys such as Motorbunny sex saddles are exciting sex toys that might feel spicier than anything you've ever done. However, they are not as intimidating as you might think. If you are a die-hard vanilla person, consider riding dildo machines as another way to enjoy your sex life; think of it like trying a new vanilla dessert. If you love vanilla pudding, why not try vanilla ice cream?
Keep it Simple
Riding sex saddles are a delightful addition to any bedroom for women and men. Start small, start slow. Those are the foundations for any beginner sex saddle rider. Set the scene as you would with any play session; there should be little to no risk of interruptions. Choose your attachment, opt for something simple and within the size range that you're comfortable with.
Make sure you have plenty of lube and soft pillows to fall back onto once the throes of your orgasm start to dissipate and you call it a night. Keeping things comfortable will help.
Once you've got everything you need, you can hop on. Start with the lowest intensity vibrations, and depending on whether you have a Motorbunny Original or the Motorbunny BUCK, choose a thrusting pattern or twirl on the lowest setting. As you ease into the sensations and let your body adapt to the machine, you can change the settings and do something more intense. There's no right or wrong way to ride a sex saddle. The only thing you need to do is listen to your body and let the pleasure you feel guide you.
Choosing the Right Attachment for the Gentle
As we mentioned before, the difference between kink and vanilla often lies in the delivery. For vanilla riders, the right attachment is where you will find the perfect balance of gentleness and passion—opting for something a little smoother and more realistic such as the "My Friend Dick" range, or a selection of attachments with basic shapes, such as slightly rounded designs to ones with a curve to them. These shapes and designs are perfect for most vanilla riders who like basic, straightforward sensations.
Tips for Solo Exploration and Partner Communication
Exploring riding dildo machines solo is a great way to build your confidence and dive into your desires. Riding solo is where you can experiment with different settings and attachments without the pressures of putting on a performance in front of a partner. When you've become accustomed to the experience on your own, performing in front of a partner will be a piece of (vanilla) cake.
Once you do venture into the realms of partnered play with a Motorbunny, talking to your partner is essential. Having an open discussion with your partner and letting them know your boundaries and what makes you comfortable will help you ease your nerves and feel comfortable.
If you have a tingling of nerves, try involving them in the session by handing them the controls. If they are in control and are taking an active part in the process, you'll be less likely to feel the brunt of the nerves; you can sit back and relax into the sensations, letting the vibrations drive your orgasm.
It's vital to remember that the goal is to create a safe and comfortable space for you and your partner to explore sex saddles together and as part of a team.
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Introducing a Little Kinky Sex
Ready to introduce a little kink to your sex machine routine? We've got your back.
Introducing some kink into your bedroom routine doesn't have to mean barreling headfirst into the most unchartered territories. You don't have to copy a porn movie to have interesting adult fun! It is about adding a bit of spice, just the right amount to excite you without overwhelming you. Easing into it slowly and with a more playful twist to the equation will help you stay comfortable without venturing too far.
One of the best ways to introduce a light layer of kink is to start with a silky blindfold to heighten the anticipation. Adding sensory play, such as ice cubes or feathers, makes the session more interesting. These subtle additions can make the familiar vanilla experience feel new and thrilling without venturing too far out of your comfort zone.
How About A Little Power Play?
If you're curious about the allure of power dynamics, consider experimenting with some restraints. Start off with silk scarves and work up to a more intense restraint, such as the Motorbunny restraints. Cuffs will help you explore the dominance and submission dynamics without any impact or pain play.
It doesn't need to feel intimidating. Discussing your boundaries and instilling a safe word beforehand can add a layer of comfort, knowing that you can stop at any time.
Try letting your partner control the settings on the Motorbunny. This will help you build trust and anticipation for your play session. Experiment with new positions or light role-play for a new twist. This kind of playful session is one of the best ways to build confidence and trust between partners.
Combining the comfort of vanilla with a light touch of kink, you can create moments that are both satisfying and spicy enough for your tastes, allowing you to dip into something new without straying too far from your comfort zone.
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What Happens When Kinky People Meet Vanilla People?
The dating scene can be challenging, especially when it comes to sexual matters. So, precisely what happens when vanilla people meet kinky people and they like each other? Well, it can be challenging to navigate without feeling a little nervous. However, sparks can fly, and sometimes those sparks can lead to curiosity, mixed in with a bit of confusion and, at the best of times, a little compromise.
For the kinky partner - introducing their preferences to the vanilla partner can feel like an exciting foray into unchartered territory. Talking about your tastes and desires can be nerve-wracking initially. You might wonder whether you'll scare them off or overwhelm them entirely.
For the vanilla partners, encountering a kinky partner can be equally daunting—it's like being handed an entirely new menu of flavors that you've never tried before, and you're left wondering where to start.
The key to kinky/vanilla relationships is open communication and a high level of mutual respect for each other. The kinky partner might want to take the lead by talking about their sexual preferences and making tiny suggestions. It's important to take your time to unfold the fabric of your passions one pleat at a time instead of diving headfirst into a BDSM boot camp. Meanwhile, the vanilla partner might find that a slight hint of kink - such as blindfolds or a tiny bit of dominance can add an unexpected layer of excitement to their familiar routines.
Finding common ground between partners can help create a thrilling dynamic in which both parties grow and discover new layers of passion and pleasure together. It's all about talking openly and honestly about sexual matters.
When a kinky soul meets a vanilla heart, the magic happens when they meet in the middle. It's not about taming the kink out of one or forcing the vanilla out of the comforts they love. Instead, the goal is to explore the beautiful blend of their sexual behaviors and needs and find a balance that satisfies both partners.
Vanilla is As Hot as You Make it
Let's be honest - vanilla sex often gets a bad rap that it doesn't deserve. Conversely, rough and kinky sex is also demonized in some circles. Both get painted with a bad brush despite the fact that they can be wholesome and wholly satisfying. Vanilla is often misunderstood as boring and essential, but that couldn't be further from the truth.
Vanilla is about what makes you comfortable and feel connected. It is about finding pleasure in familiar sensations. However, that doesn't mean that even the most vanilla of people can't enjoy a toe-curling orgasm as they hop onto a Motorbunny.
The Secret Spice
The beauty of having a vanilla foundation is that you can build on it. Even the name suggests that you can build on it. Think about it like a bowl of vanilla ice cream; adding a handful of sprinkles or a slather of chocolate sauce can turn something classic into something delightfully flavorsome. The same applies to vanilla sex. While you might be a missionary master or a pillow princess, a tiny spank here and a spank there, and maybe even a blindfold into your play, can be precisely what the libido ordered.
Riding sex machines such as the Motorbunny can add another layer of lustful fantasies to your sexual adventures. It may even lead to your best orgasms yet without a total commitment to the kinkier lifestyle. It's all about what works for you and your partner in your relationship.