A Voyeurs Guide to Sex Saddles
Are you the kind of person who wants to watch your partner reach the highest peak of climax, watch them shudder and shake with pleasure? Or do you want your partner to watch you reach orgasmic bliss? If so, a sex saddle might just be the right tool for you.
Voyeurism is an art, and whether you like to watch or be watched, curating a slightly taboo experience is a special type of bedroom fun.
In this article, you will learn about these topics:
- What is Voyeurism?
- Saddling Up
- A Brief History of Voyeurism
- A Note on Voyeurism and Consent
- To Watch or Be Watched
- The Appeal of Voyeurism and Sex Machines
- Curating a Voyeuristic Experience
- How to Put on a Show
- Solo or Partnered - Does it Make a Difference?
- Communication and Consent
- What About Digital Voyeurism?
- To be Watched or To Watch: The Takeaway
By the end of this, you'll know how to put on a show, be a good voyeur, and, most importantly, pull out all the bells and whistles while riding your machine.
Here's to creating an unforgettable show!
What is Voyeurism?
Voyeurism is a sexual behavior used to describe someone who obtains sexual gratification from observing unsuspecting individuals who are partly undressed, naked, or engaged in sexual acts.
Voyeurism involves the excitement of watching or being watched during intimate moments. For some people, someone's gaze —whether real or even imagined—can heighten arousal and add a new and exciting layer to their sex life.
With voyeurism, it is all about visual stimulation. The rush of seeing or showing something intimate and exploring a different side of pleasure, a kind of pleasure that goes beyond physical touch.
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The Etymology of Voyeurism
The word voyeur is French for "the one who sees." Historically, this practice has been recorded in various forms, the most notable example being in 19th-century Parisian brothels, where people would pay to spy through peepholes. This type of voyeurism gained notoriety in the 1880s. This practice coined the term "peeping Tom."
Early voyeurism was seen as a deviant behavior, not just because of old timey sexual purity values, but also because voyeurism was synonymous with spying on an unwilling victim to unknowinging see them naked or having sex.
Nowadays, it can be used to describe someone who likes to watch and be entertained in a sexual setting. Popping into a local strip club to support the performing arts or opening up your favorite porn site is in today’s realm of voyeurism.
The subsets can get specific. For example Hotwifing/Hot Husbanding is where someone is aroused by their partner being sexual with someone else. Then a subset of that is Cuckolding/Cuckqueening where someone is aroused by both their partner’s sexual promiscuity and the humiliation of this consensual infidelity.
Being a “voyeur” doesn’t have the same connotation it used to. Basically, some people like to watch. Voyeurs are visually stimulated and get sexual gratification out of watching their partner or a performer put on a show.
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To Watch or Be Watched
Before we dive into the nitty gritty of voyeurism, we need to define the two key components. Any consensual voyeuristic play has to have a voyeur and a consenting exhibitionist.
The Exhibitionist - The Watched One
The exhibitionist takes pleasure in knowing someone is observing their actions, often feeling empowered or excited by the attention. For exhibitionists, the thrill comes from being the center of the show, whether it's a private performance for a partner, an intimate audience, or streaming to thousands.
The act of being seen fuels their sexual gratification. Exhibitionists are not necessarily public about their proclivities; it can just be a private interest in exhibitionism for their partners.
Some “public exhibitionists” get off on exposing themselves to unexpecting people; this is illegal, not sexy, and simply dangerous for a million different reasons. For an example of what not to do and why see: First Man Jailed in England for 1.5 Years for Sending 'Dick Pics' on WhatsApp
The Exhibitionist + The Voyeur = Dual Consent
When both the exhibitionist and voyeur are consenting, then you have a scene we can get behind. If you need a more risque form of voyeurism you can always pretend the exhibitionist doesn’t know you're watching them as a form of consensual non-consent.
As long as everyone is in agreement the sky's the limit. You can leave the bathroom door ajar while you’re showering knowing that your partner might sneak a peek. You can utilize security cameras, where the exhibitionist doesn’t always know if or when they’re being watched. You can sign up for Chaturbate to watch people having sex, or be an exhibitionist. (Btw, Motorbunny has a Chaturbate Integration that can give people remote control)
Embrace the Taboo
No matter where you stand, remember that discussing, negotiating, and ensuring consent is key—this foreplay adds to the fun of adult play. Voyeurism taps into the thrill of watching or being watched, blending excitement and arousal. While sex has long been taboo, many find that the suspense of being seen heightens pleasure, adding an intense rush. For exhibitionists, knowing that their curated “show” brings pleasure fuels their own enjoyment, while voyeurs relish the experience, knowing it was designed just for them.
Saddling Up
The growing interest in vibrating sex saddles as part of the voyeuristic play is all about embracing a performance aspect while exploring new ways to enjoy sex. They're hands-free, which means the rider can focus on movement and expression without distractions, making the show more dynamic and immersive.
Watching someone masturbate is a voyeurism pillar, so watching them on a riding dildo machine creating a smooth, rhythmic motion that's visually striking takes the show to a new level. There's no risk of fumbling and dropping the vibe. It is a captivating performance from any angle. The exhibitionist is on their own little stage to show off and get off.
Some people see the sex saddle machines as a third party. A dildo or a wand is just a toy. But a saddle vibrator is like a whole being. Depending on the model, it can thrust, twirl, and vibrate. Some people have even given their Motorbunny a name which plays into the Cuckolding/Cuckqueening or Hotwifing/Hot Husbanding voyeurism depending on where you land.
“Rod” short for “Rodney” is a popular name for the Motorbunny BUCK thrusting machine. “Richard” is another good one, for the same reason.
If you're just curious or ready to dive in, Bluetooth sex machines are one of the best ways to level up your voyeuristic masterpieces.
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Curating a Voyeuristic Experience On a Saddle Vibe
Voyeuristic play, especially with a sex saddle, is as much about creating a visually appealing and emotionally charged moment as it is about the physical sensations. Whether you're performing for your partner, yourself, or even an audience, here's how to curate a memorable and engaging experience:
Planning Your Performance: A little preparation goes a long way, like any good show. Discuss what kind of experience you want to create if you're involving a partner. Are you going for something slow and sensual, or are you both excited by something more intense and energetic? If an audience is involved, think about the viewing angles and how you can ensure the performance is engaging from multiple perspectives. Planning also includes knowing your limits and your partner's, so ensure everyone is on the same page about what they're comfortable with. You could even experiment with different scenarios—maybe start with a seductive striptease before hopping on the saddle for the main event.
Confidence and Body Language: Nothing is more attractive than confidence, and the way you carry yourself during the performance can set the tone for the entire experience. Good posture, deliberate movements, and making eye contact can project confidence and control, which can be incredibly enticing.
It's not just about the ride itself—how you dismount, move around the room, or even just your facial expressions can all sweeten the allure. And remember, if you feel good, it shows. Whether alone or performing for someone else, feeling sexy and confident is half the battle.
Adding Variety for Visual Interest: Variety is the spice of life, and when it comes to using a sex saddle, there's plenty of room for mixing things up. Different attachments can offer unique experiences—not just in terms of sensation but visually. Some attachments might offer a more sleek and streamlined appearance, while others are more dynamic and attention-grabbing. Don't be afraid to switch them out mid-performance for added excitement. Changing positions can also create new perspectives and intensify the experience. Try leaning forward for a more intense ride or arching your back to highlight different parts of your body for the voyeur's enjoyment. Even small shifts in posture can create striking visuals.
By thoughtfully curating these elements, you can turn your ride on sex machine experience into an immersive, multi-sensory performance that excites, entices, and leaves a lasting impression. Whether you're exploring voyeuristic play for the first time or are a seasoned performer, a well-planned show can make all the difference in both enjoyment and impact.
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How to Put on a Show
When you're putting on a show using a riding dildo machine, it is vital to remember that you're the star of the performance. It's not just about the physical sensations—it's about creating an experience that visually and emotionally stimulates. When used properly, voyeurism can spark sexual desire and act as a form of foreplay.
Here are some tips to help you get set up:
Setting the Scene: Think of this as setting the stage for a play. Lighting plays a huge role in the mood you want to create. Soft, dim lighting can cast flattering shadows and set a sultry tone, while colored lights or LED strips can bring an air of drama or a more playful, club-like atmosphere. If you want to make the experience even more interactive, consider using remote-controlled lighting that your partner can adjust throughout the performance. Props like mirrors can enhance the visual aspect, letting both you and any voyeurs get multiple perspectives.
The Sound of Music: Music is another important element—choose something with a slow, sensual beat to match the rhythm of the saddle, or go for something more upbeat if you plan to up the intensity. You can also connect your Motorbunny to the LINK app and use the music function, allowing the voyeur to control the music and ultimately the features of your riding dildo machine to the beat of their chosen track.
Movement and Pacing: When it comes to riding your sex saddle, the key is to be deliberate with your movements. Starting slow and building up speed not only increases your pleasure but also ramps up the anticipation for anyone watching. Slow, circular motions can be hypnotic and visually pleasing, while more vigorous, bouncy movements can really get things going. Pay attention to how the saddle moves and work with it—let the mechanics of the saddle do some of the work so you can focus on the visual element of your performance. With that in mind you may want to opt for a slightly lower setting than you are used to. This will allow you to build up the climax, slowly increasing the intensity of the vibrations or easing them down and taking it slower.
Dressing Up: A great performance needs the right costume. Whether it's sultry lingerie, playful attire, or something sleek, or nothing at all, your outfit sets the tone. Opt for pieces that offer easy access but still leave something to the imagination, like a sheer kimono or lace bodysuit with a split crotch. If you're into roleplay, costumes can add extra excitement. The key is to wear what makes you feel confident and powerful—sometimes less is more, with accessories like masks or stockings enhancing the appeal and drawing your voyeur's attention to the most enticing spots.
Attachments: Your sex machine is a vital part of the show, so picking the right sex machine attachment is imperative. You'll want to grab your favorite dildo attachment or something that is visually stimulating like an attachment from the Bad Dragon range.
Go Smaller: If you're planning on sending a video of yourself and your Motorbunny to a partner, practice makes perfect. Even if you are experienced with larger attachments, sometimes it is easier to practice your routine with a slightly smaller attachment to perfect it first. Size up as you get comfortable with your routine.
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What About Digital Voyeurism?
You might wonder how this would work in different settings, solo sex or partner sex? Well, it works well for both, and a little voyeurism can be really good for a relationship, especially if you're long-distance! A little bit of digital tease can keep the flames of desire alive.
Going Solo
If you are looking to spice up your sex life, solo play sessions are one of the hottest acts and are perfect for curating an amazing show. Whether you like receiving videos and pictures from your partner or sending them of yourself - it's the best time to perfect the art.
If you are swapping pictures and videos with a partner while they are away or at work, you must ensure mutual consent and establish clear boundaries. Both parties should feel comfortable and excited about it. Another consideration when swapping videos or photos of an intimate nature is that they might get out in the public sphere. If you are uncomfortable with that and still want to send your partner something spicy - you can wear a mask or cover up any distinguishing tattoos or birthmarks.
When shared in this way, solo play can become a powerful form of connection, allowing you to express yourself and experience a sense of closeness when apart. It's also a chance to experiment with different angles, lighting, and settings to create a visually stimulating experience that heightens your and your partner's arousal and anticipation. Sending them a little clip of you on your Motorbunny is another way to say that you're thinking of them even when you're going solo!
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Partnered Play
When it comes to partnered sex, incorporating voyeurism can take intimacy to the next level. Watching your partner pleasure themselves or being observed by them can be incredibly arousing, as it introduces an element of anticipation and excitement.
It can form a vital part of foreplay by getting both partners aroused and ready before sex. It is one of the best ways to bond with partners, especially long-distance ones.
Discussing Boundaries and Preferences
Once the topic is on the table, take the time to discuss the specifics. Discuss what each of you is comfortable with and where your boundaries lie. Maybe one partner prefers being watched while the other feels more comfortable watching.
Or perhaps both are excited about trying something new but want to set certain limits, like keeping the experience private or only involving certain types of play. Be sure to get into the details—
- What kinds of scenes do you want to create?
- What kind of role would each person prefer to take?
- What are the absolute "no-go" areas for either partner?
- Where will you be and where will I be? How close can I get?
Setting clear boundaries and understanding each other's preferences helps avoid awkward or uncomfortable moments.
Consent and Respect
At the heart of any voyeuristic experience—or any sexual activity, really—is mutual consent and respect. Consent is one of the sexiest parts of any kind of sexual act.
It's essential to check in with each other throughout the process to make sure both parties are still feeling good and comfortable.
Consent doesn't end with a single "yes" at the beginning; it's an ongoing conversation. Make sure to ask your partner how they're feeling during the experience, and don't be afraid to stop if one of you feels uncomfortable at any point. This is especially true for the one putting the show on, respect their boundaries. It creates a respectful environment for all parties.
Afterward, debriefing and talking about what you both liked or if anything felt off is also helpful. This keeps the lines of communication open and strengthens your relationship's trust.
Creating a positive voyeuristic experience requires an ongoing dialogue where both partners feel heard, respected, and excited about what's to come. Consent is your greatest ally in creating the best experience for both parties.
To be Watched or To Watch: The Takeaway
Voyeurism is one of the best forms of foreplay and bonding between partners. Sex machines have given exhibitionists a hands-free stage to perform on that is filled with pleasure - while giving the voyeur an opportunity to be an active participant in the show. So whether you like to be watched or to do the watching, sex saddles are there to ramp up your intimacy and deliver earth-shattering pleasure that goes all the way to 11!